I hung onto my marriage for so long because I believed in the sanctity of marriage.
I tolerated so much that never should have been tolerated. The neglect, the lying, the cheating, the aggression, the manipulation, the gaslighting…
5 years single and it has it’s own kind of ups and downs. Some days are hard as hell. Going through a season of hardship right now.
But I will choose this life over that life.
I have a friend that’ll always remind me with this:
“You were in a toxic situation for almost 9 years. Give yourself at least 9 years to heal and rebuild your life.”
5 years into this single mom life and she’s right. I’ve done more in the last 5 years than I did in the 9 years I was married, even if I’ve felt stagnant and hopeless. Big picture is, I’ve done far more now than ever.
And I will continue to strive for growth ❤
If you are in an abusive relationship, realize that you are far more capable than you think.
I’m not gonna sugarcoat it and say that its easy.
But the peace of mind that comes with leaving someone who crushes your spirit and manipulates you is worth it.
You find strength you didn’t think you had because he was suppressing you.